Sukriti Ralli – MOTHERS ARE THE EPITOME OF COMFORT & LUXURY FOR ALL THE CHILDREN.
With Mother’s Day round the corner, we thought it’s best to dwell more on relationships shared between a mother and daughter. In this series, we speak to Delhi based fashion designer Sukriti Ralli (Founder Guzarish Creations).
The inputs shared in this interview are from the perspective of a daughter who holds her mom in high esteem for the constant support system she has been with her through this journey.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE MOST FAVORITE MEMORY OF YOUR MOM?
The most favorite memory of my mother is when she abruptly wore my father’s clothes and was thrilled to bits. All these years, her ideal style had been ethnic. Even after my father pestered her to change her dressing style, she was always found comfort in her suits. That day, I found her feeling confident about herself.
My observation about that smile resonated with the fact that there is so much a woman has to let go after becoming a mother and yet never complain. From their perfect body figure to potent to do the best in their career, from being independent to do to being dependent on their family’s schedule. It is a complete turn-around of life when you are a dedicated Mother.
WHAT ARE SOME SPECIAL MEMORIES YOU HAVE ABOUT YOUR MOTHER, WHERE SHE WENT OUT OF HER WAY TO KEEP YOU HAPPY?
Trust me, I am not bragging about it but she goes out of her way every day. However, the most special memories will always be the moments she calls me “RANI BETI” even when we both know I am far from it. The sweetness with which she calls me that can make me agree to anything she says the next. Even if that means I have to eat “BITTER GOURD” aka KARELA for lunch. Quite unusually, she makes me feel like a Queen to eventually make me eat something I loathe.
Any another favorite memory about her.
If I fall sick even if it’s a basic bad throat, she will keep checking upon me the whole night. She makes sure I am not in pain of any sorts. She will keep moving from her room to mine until she is confirmed that I am sound asleep.
WHAT ARE THE TWO LESSONS YOU LEARNT FROM YOUR MOM THAT MADE YOU A BETTER INDIVIDUAL?
Through her, I inherited the habit of loving unconditionally without keeping any expectations. In last few years, she taught me life is too short to live it with terms and conditions. Money can buy you things but emotions can attract the positive people more easily into your life.
Has she guided you in your career too?
She backed me up always whenever I felt like I should give up on my dreams. She kept telling me “You do your hard work, God will take care of the rest.” Hence, I can say I have learnt to be optimistic, believe in myself and keep going ahead without attaching myself to any limiting beliefs.
HOW IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOM OVER A PERIOD OF TIME? HOW HAS IT EVOLVED OVER A PERIOD OF TIME?
It is a “30% bitter & 70% sweet” relationship. Probably because sometimes her experiences of life does not fit my reality and I choose to go other way than the one showed by her. I had always kept my life challenges to myself and have conquered them all by myself. I used to feel she belongs to a different generation and may not relate to your understanding. To my surprise, it was only about the insecurity and fear that I developed within myself. Since, last few years I have started discussing my life with her and she understands me really well.
The best thing about the bond is that she is a good listener and gives me the space to make my own decisions. She is like a friend who I can fight with but cannot live without, whom I can cry with, without the fear of being judged that I am an adult and yet docile. The one who brings the first ray of sunshine in my room (she is the first person I see before leaving my bed).
ANY MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE WHERE YOU HURT YOUR MOM & FEEL SORRY ABOUT IT?
If truth be spoken, I hurt her a lot but she knows I love her more than that. Never had I hurt her for something she did. She is one perfect woman who takes care of minutest details of my needs. It is always when I am annoyed with something at a work front or if there is someone else I am frustrated with but cannot vent out at.
Hurting her is not my intention but in the spur of the moment, it happens sometimes and I regret it later.
I may not be a perfect daughter but she is a PERFECT MOTHER who “let go” a lot and that keeps our bond intact.
HOW ARE YOU & YOUR MOM DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER?
My mother is confident that my “MOTHER-IN-LAW” will complain her for my cooking skills and she won’t take my side on this aspect. I tell her, I will remove the “IN LAW” and make her my MOTHER and mothers never complain instead they love unconditionally. Of course, I make her laugh & the discussion gets over then & there.
ANY MOMENTS IN LIFE (RELATED TO YOUR MOM) YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE OR ALTER? WHY?
My mother lost her father at an early age and I see that void in her eyes. She feels, had her father been there with her for a longer while she would have been at a different level (Qualification & career wise). Since she lost him at a tender age of 12, she was an understanding child and gave up on her dreams because she did not want to be nuisance for her mother who was the single earning member in the family of six.
I wish if I get super powers, I would change that for sure as everyone deserves to live a life of their choice and there should never be any single dream left unfulfilled.
IS THERE ANY GENERATION GAP BETWEEN YOUNGSTERS & PARENTS?
Yes, surely there was a gap. I believe to some extent it is important to maintain that gap so the respect in relation stays alive. On the other hand, it is important to fill that gap once in a while, so both the parents and the children understand that they are each other’s confidante.